Why Social Life is Scary?

Why Social Life is Scary?

Why Social Life is Scary? We are constantly surrounded by people that tell us that we need to grow our social life. We need it in order to be happy. But let me tell you one thing you don’t wanna hear: we don’t. Cause, sometimes social life can be like the story in “The Truman Show”.

Of course we need people that will enrich our time. I am not talking about the few human beings that we would gather around the table on our final dinner on Earth. I am talking about all the others. People that we surround ourselves with and don’t matter to us, don’t care about us, don’t enrich our lives.

We are naturally afraid of what we don’t know and it’s not good to be afraid. We fear loneliness and being social. At the same time, we cherish the moments when we are alone and when we have somebody to keep us company.

Why Social Life is Scary?

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Why Social Life is Scary?

Why Social Life is Scary?

We became fake social animals. Always in need of an hug, but worried to make the first move. Always thinking that people are strange, when we are the people.

Sometimes, don’t you feel like you are in a game? One step forward, two steps back? If you look around, don’t you see that Instagram, Facebook, Youtube are our alternatives to try and keep up with a world that is full of boredom, darkness and shit? We are trying to make our own fairy tales and to bring them into this world, so everyone can see.

Social animals as we are, we still became comfortable in our own homes, watching others making the mistakes we cannot make, because we are afraid. We constantly searching for answers, for people that got the answers before us, to try and have a guidance, when in truth there is not one.

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We are all here just to live and learn, day by day. Nobody has written a book on how to live, that is why we are always learning.

Social life has become fake. (if it was ever true) One like on Instagram can bring us a smile, one nice comment can make up for a conversation with our friends, but sometimes people just give something to get it back in return.

Truth is we are all determined to get over the shit and get the flowers to bloom in our own secret gardens. Not everyone can make it, at least not in the short run. That is why we are running as fast as we can, always looking if others are running as fast as we are, but we fail to see what’s in front of us. We need to stop and think if that is what we want to reach. And if yes, we need a plan that is gonna last, so we can set our own time for the people we love.

Why Social Life is Scary?


Why Social Life is Scary?


Why Social Life is Scary?

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  1. 09/18/2017 / 4:48 pm

    Wat een leuke combinaties en super elegant 🙂

  2. 09/18/2017 / 4:53 pm

    I used to have some really big issues with social situations. I luckily have gotten much better! Since I spend so much time online, going out into the real world can be scary at times, but we all have to do it! I loved this post, real life is something bloggers and sometimes forget about. Super cute outfit too!


    • Vanessa
      09/19/2017 / 10:35 am

      Aww thank you Ashlee! I totally agree and I love your blog! keep it up! x

    • Vanessa
      09/19/2017 / 10:33 am

      Thank you! I wish you the same x

  3. John
    09/19/2017 / 11:38 am

    not sure what social medias real function is (advertising possibly) don’t really use it much- only to see how friends are whats happening in world of music comics & film -sometimes there’s political things that make me miserable – and that can be manipulated by negative forces -its become a bubble I guess -not sure how people find the time to be constantly posting -but hey I don’t have a phone unsure if i’d be the same lol -love the outfit -especially the shades very Kurt/Kim Gordon-+reds a strong passionate colour

    • Vanessa
      09/22/2017 / 5:44 am

      Haha nice to hear your opinions John, I guess some people use social media more like a business (like me) and keep on posting and that is why is useful 🙂

  4. 09/19/2017 / 11:46 am

    Love the look and feeling of your blog!
    And I must say: I’m in love with this outfit, you rock it girl!

    • Vanessa
      09/19/2017 / 2:26 pm

      Thank you so much my dear! love your blog too! x

    • Vanessa
      09/22/2017 / 5:44 am

      Aww thank you!! xx

  5. 09/19/2017 / 1:15 pm

    Amazing style and gorgeous layout! So glad I found your blog xx.

    • Vanessa
      09/22/2017 / 5:44 am

      Thank you so much Kali!! xx

  6. 09/19/2017 / 1:22 pm

    First, I’m loving this outfit! It’s cute and fun. Now for the second thing, you are absolutely right about how we see social media and social events. We have to find the power within self to make us happy and not to rely on people or social media to fill us up. We must find our purpose and let that lead us in life. This is a great post! Love your blog.


    • Vanessa
      09/22/2017 / 5:52 am

      Thank you so much Racquel for your comment! Yes, I agree! We need to do a deep search within ourselves to find who we are, what makes us happy and how to cope in life. x

  7. Janet
    09/19/2017 / 2:01 pm

    Love the sunglasses! I need a pair!

    • Vanessa
      09/22/2017 / 5:53 am

      Thank you Janet! x

  8. Tatianna
    09/19/2017 / 3:14 pm

    I completely agree! It’s hard being so open on social media! PS. that gingham shirt is to die for!

    • Vanessa
      09/22/2017 / 5:54 am

      Yes! Thank you Tatianna! x

  9. 09/19/2017 / 5:42 pm

    social life can be extremely terrifying, but keeping our own reaction to in in check can help.

    • Vanessa
      09/22/2017 / 5:56 am

      Thank you Chloe! Love your blog x

  10. 09/19/2017 / 8:40 pm

    Outfit is bomb. Words are true. Design is beautiful. Amazing post!

    • Vanessa
      09/22/2017 / 5:57 am

      Thank you so much! Love your blog xx

  11. katsomething
    09/19/2017 / 8:52 pm

    Well said! I’m always made to feel like I need to go out and party, but honestly, it just stresses me out.

    • Vanessa
      09/22/2017 / 5:58 am

      Yes! I don’t want to be forced to do something I don’t wanna do that day…. you know? 🙂

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